Cast a Wider Net to Catch Your Prize

Rejection is a part of life that we will have to deal with at one time or another. It can effect us in just about every aspect of our lives: employment, dating, sex, entrepreneurship, you name it. Fear of being turned down, whether it is the fear of appearing weak or otherwise inferior, or fear that was developed after past rejections can stifle our personal development, and prevent us from reaching our goals in life.

Oftentimes, there is little that can be done. If a girl that you are after just does not want to be bothered with you, then you probably are not going to be able to do much to change her mind. If your business ideas are not getting the greenlight from certain investors, no matter how hard you pitch them, then you probably will not see a cent from them anytime soon. Does this mean that you should give up on dating, or throw away your ideas? Absolutely not! Instead of throwing in the towel, you should cast a wider net.

What this means is that you should always keep your options open, so that if you fail with one prospect, you have others to fall back on where you may succeed. For instance, if you are trying to pitch an idea to investors but you get shot down, that does not mean that you should kill your dreams. Instead, modify the idea or your pitch as much as you need to, and try to target other investors. If this does not work, you can fall back on crowdfunding, or a combination of these investment sources. Expanding your options makes it easier to find at least one source that will work for you.

The principle applies for girls. Now, this can be a hard thing to do depending on where you are as there might not be enough suitable women in your area (like in my hometown, especially given my preference), and that wide net might end up catching one big whale. In this case, you might have to relocate, or utilize online dating. If you are in an area where you have potential access to many attractive women, you will want to keep your options open with as many as possible. If a girl rejects you, then you can pick yourself up and talk to the next. If one flakes on you, then you can set up a night out (or a night in) with a different lady.

Knowing that options are available will help you to maintain your confidence, even after being hit by rejection. Cast your net as wide as you possibly can in order to increase your chances of success.