Throughout history, there have been
several epidemics. The Plague, the Spanish Flu, AIDS, and Ebola
(which was foolishly brought to the United States) all come to mind.
There is one more ailment that effects otherwise healthy men, it is
known as Oneitis.
The primary symptom of Oneitis is
obsessive feelings over one woman. This is not to be confused with
fidelity in a relationship with a woman that deserves it, or the
loyalty that a functional marriage would have. Instead, it is
characterized by loyalty and devotion to a woman that does not
reciprocate it, or feigns it to drain a man of his resources. It may
also lead to a man being inhibited from making moves in his life,
whether they be romantic, financial, or otherwise, all to please this
so-called special person. In this article, we will discuss some of
the main causes of Oneitis.
Fear
Fear
is one of the biggest causes of Oneitis. The fear of losing the
interest of that “special” girl can cause men to take actions
that are self-destructive, or not take actions that are beneficial.
Oftentimes, the “special” girl does not find the afflicted man to
be special at all, and it follows that the interest was never there
in the first place. The man wastes away (or at least wastes his time)
with pursuits that are non-beneficial.
Self-doubt
may also cause a man to believe that he cannot attract other women. A
bird in hand is worth two in the bush, as they say, but many times,
the birds in hand are mangy pigeons rather than juicy chickens. These
men will end up living lives lacking of sexual fulfillment, while
being browbeaten by their ever-fattening counterparts.
Religion
Most
religions teach us that fornication is wrong, and that we should seek
one mate to spend the rest of our lives with. Perhaps this worked in
the past, but in today's world of hypergamy and hypersexuality, these
notions just do not hold. Even within the houses of religion, there
is plenty of hanky-panky going on. The same preacher that teaches you
to find one suitable wife is probably popping multiple women in the
church, using his supposed spiritual authority to get in women's
draws. He may also be splashing more than holy water on the choirboys
too.
Lack of Growth
When
we are children, we watch movies and read books about princes and
princesses falling in love and living happily ever after. If we are
lucky, we had two loving parents that supported each other. However,
in today's world, there comes a time when we grow up and realize that
we were lied to by the stories, and what worked for our parents might
not work for us in contemporary society, for better or for worse.
Some
men believe that despite all that they see around them, that there is
indeed one special person made especially for them. There is a sense
of justice, and no matter how many times the princess turns them
down, the prince knows that he will will win her heart.
Unfortunately, the only winning here is the princess taking resources
from Prince Beta while getting the diugh from King Alpha.
Lack of Suitable Women
In
some locations, there is a very real lack of suitable women, whether
it is because the women in an area are all unattractive, or a man
lacks the properties necessary to attract decent women. In the first
case, the young men will naturally vie for the affections of the rare
good-looking women in the area. In the latter case, a young man may
devote himself entirely to the solitary female that gives him an
ounce of attention.
Now
that we have gone over some of the symptoms and causes of Oneitis,
let's briefly discuss potential cures. Mary Poppins said that “a
spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down”; in the case of this
ailment, spooning out some sugarwalls is the medicine itself. See
other women, and after you've busted a few good nuts, see if the
princess still enchants you. A change of mindset may also be in
order. Try to see the world for what it really is rather than living
completely in idealism. Finally, make sure that you don't give your
all to a woman that gives you nothing or only leads you on. In the
future, I will talk about my bout with Oneitis and how I cured myself
of it.
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